Monday, June 23, 2008

Hold on to caution or throw it to the wind?

I tend to be vague when people ask the Hubs and I when we want to have kids.

I'm worried something will go wrong and then I'll have to deal with all these people. What if we have trouble conceiving? What if I miscarry? Does it hurt less if I avoid painful questions?

The preemptive strategy has always been: don't let them know if/when we'll be trying, much less if I get pregnant. Don't say a word until the first trimester's over. But maybe that's not the way to go.

It seems like my friends belong to the let-everyone-know-ASAP school. And it seems to have worked for them.

I'm trying to be more open. To not fear potential disappointment so very much. Should I be a little less cautious about the if and when? Or is it better to stay mysterious?


Photo by the Hubs or me. (Don't remember.)


  1. I'm sorry if I ask you too much. I just love both of you and am excited to see how well I know that you two will do when/if you decide to have children. On a side note, it feels like I'm surrounded by Preggos lately. It's really kind of bizzarre...

  2. Maybe if I gave you a straight answer you wouldn't have to keep asking! ;)

    Yeah, seems like peoples' major life events happen in waves. You're either going to a bunch of weddings or a bunch of baby showers or a bunch of graduations...

    PS We love you too!

  3. you know what the best method is?
    whatever you want it to be.


    be private or share as much as you want, and we are all here to support you how and when you need it.

  4. It is a hard dilemma. I think there are pro's and con's to each. Having lived thru a m/c that we told no one about, I wouldn't want to go thru that alone again. I think each couple needs to think thru what would work best for them...

    I hope you find a good balance!

  5. Chanelle: What if I don't know what I want it to be? I guess we'll figure something out, huh?

    Thanks for all the encouragement and support! And virtual cheese whiz! ;)

  6. Heather: That makes me so sad to think of you two going through that alone. But I can totally understand why you would've chosen to go that route.

    It's really hard to know what works best before you've lived it. I know, that's life, but still....


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